Mocktails Or Messy
Mocktails Or Messy
#42: Surviving the “Feast & Fuck It” Season: How Daylight Savings Wrecks Your Mental Health.
This episode will have you contemplating the shift in seasons, the impact of daylight saving time, and how these changes can affect our moods and well-being. Jane shares personal stories about life transformations, including a journey to sobriety, and how commitment to self-care can be crucial, especially during the temptation-laden holiday season. We explore the transition from youthful indulgence to a health-focused lifestyle, celebrating small victories along the way, like reaching sobriety milestones.
As the days grow shorter and colder, we tackle the seasonal blues head-on by offering practical strategies to maintain a positive mindset. From consistent sleep routines and morning walks to the benefits of light therapy, there are countless ways to navigate the winter months. We also challenge common myths about alcohol and sleep, promoting therapy as a valuable resource. Our conversation takes a lighthearted turn as we discuss the allure of outdoor spaces and the human fascination with drama. Finally, we dive into intriguing listener stories, including haunted hotel mishaps and curious messages, inviting more of our audience to share their unique experiences with us.
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Speaker 2:We have a constant trend, yeah, last week we had Harman Jane Harman from Amethyst. She sent us another bottle of Amethyst. What flavor is it?
Speaker 1:That is the grapefruit basil. I'm excited to try this.
Speaker 2:You ready to pour it at the same time, Sure, yeah, One two three. Ooh yeah, Nice, pour on that. She said, Jane's like I like a little bit more than one and a half ounce.
Speaker 1:She likes two ounces.
Speaker 2:I love all the flavors. We had the lemon, cucumber, serrano before the lime watermelon last week with. Jane. Now we have the grapefruit basil. Here let's try it, cheers, that is got a kick.
Speaker 1:I feel it in my nose. I love that.
Speaker 2:They did simulate that like properly. Oh wow, yeah, that's a sipper.
Speaker 1:That's a sipper. I like it a lot. Hey, podcast fam, how do you all feel after turning that clock back? At the beginning of this month, first Sunday of November, we rolled our clocks back an hour. We got to hit that snooze button with zero guilt. But let's be real, we might have gained some Zs, but we said goodbye to sunny evenings and hello to cozy nights with hot cocoa and questionable Netflix binges. Here's the kicker While we're adjusting our clocks, don't forget about your mood. With fewer daylight hours, some of us might start feeling a little blah Blah.
Speaker 2:What do you mean, blah.
Speaker 1:Do you ever feel like you have seasonal depression in those colder months? I do. And when it's getting dark so early early like it starts getting dark at like 3 pm do you ever just feel a little bit?
Speaker 2:down. Yeah, except like I did not feel that in la because the weather was pretty nice yeah, like all year round. It's nice there yeah, but here, whenever it's colder and the like, daylight savings is it savings time.
Speaker 1:Yep.
Speaker 2:It just does put you in that little bit of that mood of like meh yeah.
Speaker 1:How are you holding up so far?
Speaker 2:You know what it's been tricky. I mean, I do think in some ways, like, thank God the real estate has been producing, it's been happening, but you know, if it wasn't for that, I would feel a little bit more down in the dumps. What about you? How do you feel?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think I'm now two weeks sober. I'm on a journey right now, guys, congratulations.
Speaker 2:I mean, I know some people, two weeks is nothing and I know that you don't need to be out of it. It's just a nutrition thing for you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's actually, it's a big deal for me. I think it was a part of my lifestyle where, like on the weekends, I would drink no wine. But you know what? I'm on a journey right now. I'm taking a pause from alcohol. I pause from the sauce, yeah, and I feel great. I actually don't miss it at all, which is weird. I thought I would really miss it.
Speaker 2:Yeah. But I'm wondering if it's because you just are like, okay, I have a goal in mind. I want to get back into, like you know, being that fitness freak Like you were. Like, I think you look amazing right now.
Speaker 1:And we've said this on like repetitive Thank you. So I haven't recognized myself in the mirror for the last four years, ever since I had my daughter, and I've been scared to take this journey because I knew it would be hard. But I want to say for anyone who is contemplating on doing it it's not hard, you just have to do it. You just have to commit to it and do it.
Speaker 2:But more on that to come.
Speaker 1:Do it, yeah, but more on that to come.
Speaker 2:Basically, since I'm focusing on myself right now, I am not feeling any seasonal depression yet this year right so I don't like we still got some months to go, but I mean, I think it's actually better for me because it is 10 months without it, a little over 10 months without the booze. Congratulations, thank you. And honestly I'm handling things a lot different. I do think I, just like you said, like yeah, it might be the seasonal depression might have set in, because in the past it'd be like okay, holidays, wine holidays, get drunk with your friends and family holidays, like that was kind of always a thing.
Speaker 2:And it just felt like you know, the libations were flowing more to like get out of that funk, it's mindless.
Speaker 1:And then you end up down this road that you're like not happy so anxiety is real anxiety yeah, and we're getting older.
Speaker 2:I mean, let's be honest, like when we were in our 20s it was like still like a new, fresh thing right like excited to go to like south side or even, like you know, like travel to mexico like unlimited. You know, like, what was that? Um the? What do they call that? Like unlimited thing?
Speaker 1:Oh, like an all-inclusive yes.
Speaker 2:I know like that used to be like the highlight of our life. We'd be like oh my God, I can't wait to go to Cancun for an all-inclusive resort.
Speaker 1:I know right Now it's different, but you know what I mean. I've got some tips and stuff on how to navigate through these like darker, colder months, when the clocks fall back, like it really does disrupt our sleep patterns and just getting your sleep pattern disrupted a little bit can really affect, like, your mental health and your mental well-being. So like, give yourself a little time to adjust.
Speaker 2:And the sleep like going to bed having a wine going to sleep. That was debunked.
Speaker 1:You don't have good sleep whenever you're drinking, and it's not good for your heart either, guys. Yeah, that wine is not good for your heart.
Speaker 2:Red wine is not good for you yeah, I think that was probably like some winery that paid for that. Oh my gosh, they had to have.
Speaker 1:That was like in 2000, early 2000s. They were like wine is good for your heart, have a glass of wine a day. And now it's like even one glass a day is not beneficial, it's harmful. So it's good to be aware of that. Yeah, I think you know. If you're struggling because it's so dark out, go out into the sun, like in the morning, for like a walk In the morning at this time of year is when you're gonna get the best sunlight and you can even do like light therapy.
Speaker 2:They sell like that infrared.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they even sell them on amazon. You can like put it on your nightstand or something and like, lay there and just let it hit your face.
Speaker 2:I always thought that was so kooky and bullshit, but it's real it's real.
Speaker 1:I know somebody who did it last year.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they see the benefit yeah, it was like january.
Speaker 1:They were depressed because it was just like so dark and cold for too many months and it helped them. It did um and stay social like don't just stay in bed.
Speaker 2:I know it's so easy, right like, oh yeah, like you just want to like binge netflix or, like you know, stay in bed in the morning when it's too cold yeah, and like I think what we're doing is self-care, focus on yourself, focus on self-care because you could be, you could come out of this being so sexy.
Speaker 1:On the other end, if you just focus on yourself and your self-care, you know know, take that bath at night, go to bed early, wake up, do your morning walk, do your exercise routine and you're golden.
Speaker 2:I know it sounds like super, like simple things, but it is not easy to actually commit.
Speaker 1:Right, and even all of that like sometimes it's not enough.
Speaker 2:Right, yeah, therapy helps me. Yeah, because I think just having that other person that is unbiased, that is, you know, educated in, you know, that realm can really like do you a lot, exactly, do justice for yourself. Yeah, I mean, I think it's kind of nuts to think about the top searched features that renters are looking for right now is outdoor space I can agree with that.
Speaker 2:That's what I'm looking for, like as like a homeowner that's looking for, like to expand and like kind of find another house. The outdoor space is so important to you yeah yeah, so kind of go into, like you know, being being like healthier mentally, like you said, like getting that fresh air in the morning. I find it interesting on why this study came out. Why do you think they're looking for the outdoor space?
Speaker 1:For me personally, I want to get away from the TV screens. I don't really watch a lot of TV guys. I want to get away from, like my cell phone. You know that instant gratification where you're always looking down at your cell phone yes I just want to get outside and like do yard work and like have some chickens, like you know, maybe some goats, like we are looking for five acres minimum okay, so whoever knows where the five acres is?
Speaker 2:north of north allegheny county. Yeah, allegheny north. Yeah, please let us know five acres, that's where she's going yeah, she's looking for that yeah, give me, shoot me a message. If you know of anything seriously, we're looking right now yeah, you want that outdoor space because you just feel connected to nature.
Speaker 1:You want to have animals.
Speaker 2:You're looking to be a farm girl and it's easier when you're entertaining guests.
Speaker 1:It's so much easier to do it outside, rather than having them in your house and then having like pretty much like a mess to clean up.
Speaker 2:Uh-huh, oh yeah, I mean, I think that the funny part about this is I like outdoor space with just being connected to nature. But the reason that this top search is stating that people are looking for patias, porches, outdoor spaces, decks, is because they love sitting outside quietly attempting to hear the neighbor's arguments.
Speaker 1:What, that's what people like outdoor space. Okay, that's what I'm getting right now in my neighborhood.
Speaker 2:Okay, that's what I'm getting right now in my neighborhood, like I mean, honest to God, like I was in a relationship love them dearly. We're you know, we're amicable, but that was one thing. Towards the end that was bad Because we lived in an apartment complex with a cute courtyard. We would fight and everybody knew.
Speaker 1:It was that loud or it was that close of quarters, I would have hated living near you, have you? Have you seen those little like earbuds that like you put it in your ear? I saw it on amazon. I don't have one, but you put it in your ear and it like amplifies the sound so you can like hear things better sounds like a a hearing aid.
Speaker 2:No, there's what it does Okay, listen, so you could go outside and like get better hearing and hear like the arguments better.
Speaker 1:So if you're into that, there's an option for you.
Speaker 2:So I honestly think people love like, think about it. We watch television for like drama. We watch reality shows for the drama. There is something that I'm learning as I get older people love drama I mean sometimes they create it in their own circles.
Speaker 1:Oh they do, I mean, life gets. So that's why I say two is company three is a crowd, because if it's a friendship of three, then that when the when two of them are off together, when the third one is out, they're gonna be talking shit on you. It's, that's what happens typically.
Speaker 2:Well, I could say the same thing about three siblings. You have three siblings but guess what? Siblings too but the thing that's nice about having three is one person can be just down like, say you need solitude and quiet, sure you have the one that could just take a break.
Speaker 1:You tag in, tag out well, you know Pros and cons.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:But if we're talking about drama, I mean if you're in a throuple or a threesome or a group of three friends, it's like I don't know. Beware.
Speaker 2:What are your thoughts on a throuple? Would you and your husband ever be interested?
Speaker 1:No, there's enough bullshit between just the two of us. We don't have room for for more of that I know you already have two.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you don't need any of that. Oh, I mean, I do think in some ways, like I find it kind of crazy. Like you know, liquid death is like the original, like mocktail, but not really like. So. Liquid death is a can of water. Yeah, it looks like a beer, yeah I don't touch that.
Speaker 1:You don't like it. I will not touch something that says liquid death on it. It's bad vibes. Bad vibes, bad energy.
Speaker 2:I'm not putting that into me okay, well, it's funny you say that because they came out with this misfortune cookies what yeah? Doubt, like during the holiday or during halloween, they came out with this. Instead of a fortune cookie they are a black colored fortune cookie and it's called misfortune bizarre. I know, it's kind of fucking cool. Yeah, I did try it. What did?
Speaker 1:you think?
Speaker 2:I thought it was amazing because it's funny little like naughty things that are like oh, this misfortune. So you know, it's basically the death liquid, death canned water brand is literally asking, like you know, duolingo to have. Like you know, duolingo is like the language app that's located I think you say like duo oh, duolingo okay, I say door Duo lingo. Okay, I say duo.
Speaker 1:Well, we all know you have a speech impediment, I know.
Speaker 2:Okay, thank you for correcting me. Duo, duo, Duo lingo, Duo lingo for having so Liquid. Death has these questionable marketing campaigns for the Miss Fortune cookie and it's a disturbing black fortune cookie that is sold like was all over these chinese restaurants in new york and la I was able to get a friend of mine. He mailed it to me. The cookies contain playful negative fortunes that would make your mom go. Well, that's not very nice I don't like it.
Speaker 1:Bad vibes, I would maybe do it on like halloween well, that's, that was where, okay, I guess.
Speaker 2:Yeah, just not on a normal tuesday though okay, yeah, yeah, so you don't like misfortune cookies no, I'm superstitious, and I always have been and I'm cynical yeah, you are a little cynical. Where do you get that from you?
Speaker 1:know how life shapes you.
Speaker 2:Life has shaped me to be that way please elaborate no do you think I'm too much of an optimist, like I'm just like so happy-go-lucky, or do you think I'm getting more real as I get older?
Speaker 1:no, I don't think you are getting more real I think you are so happy. Go lucky optimist. And that's what's scary. When you're down, it's scary, but no, like I was a couple weeks ago.
Speaker 2:I really do feel like omni home. Oh wait, we were. I was corrected by somebody. I said the william omni pen hotel.
Speaker 1:It's the Omni William Penn Hotel. Omni, william Penn, two episodes ago, wow.
Speaker 2:Wow, I don't know how I fucked that up. Maybe it was being in that haunted setting. I really felt these like spirits coming into me, because you never see me like that. So yeah, you're right, when I'm down, it's weird.
Speaker 1:So super weird.
Speaker 2:Did we have any messages or anything like that? Oh my god, that long ass. Do you want to do it? Got a message from one of the people that stole our billboard and then they went onto the website.
Speaker 1:They contacted me and you so we do have a billboard in bloomfield would you? Consider bloomfield part of pittsburgh.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's a neighborhood of pittsburgh yeah, okay you know, I think it's kind of nuts that we got this long, long, long, long message. They said I saw your sign in bloomfield. I have a lot of messy stories, but I am enclosing one of them for your consideration. I have plenty other odd and strange tales. I hope you like it is this. I mean it is going on for three more pages. Okay, To be continued. There's a second email on top of that.
Speaker 1:Okay, this is the craziest thing that anyone's ever sent us.
Speaker 2:It sounds kind of nuts and we do appreciate you sending the messy stories.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:I want to hear more about what's going on with everybody's lives. We are Ryan Frankofsky and Kelly Msgorski. And you're listening to. Mocktails are Messy.
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