Mocktails Or Messy
Mocktails Or Messy
#36: Too Far, Too Fast: When Sarcasm, Feels Like Roasting
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Ever wondered what it takes to truly transform your grocery game and navigate the tricky waters of modern relationships? We start this episode of "Mocktails Or Messy" with a lighthearted apology and a playful roast of a new mustache look, setting the tone for a mix of humor and heartfelt conversation. Sip along with us as we introduce our chosen beverages—Barvis Brewing Company's Pumpkin Dark and Sam Adams Octoberfest—and debate the virtues of ditching Whole Foods for the more budget-friendly, but equally delightful, Trader Joe's. Plus, we chat about the highs and lows of buying seasonal produce for kids and the challenges of Sober October, even flirting with the idea of saying goodbye to caffeine.
Have you ever felt the pull of your dreams but weren't sure how to make them a reality? Join us as we gush over TikTok influencer Jenna Lee and share the life-changing benefits of silent walks and inspirational podcasts. We spotlight a memorable episode featuring Chris Appleton, Kim Kardashian's hairstylist, who delves into self-discovery and gratitude. Reflecting on our own aspirations, we discuss potential career shifts into real estate, the fulfillment of being a mom and podcast host, and the magic of manifestation in shaping our future. We're buzzing with excitement over some amazing developments on the horizon and can't wait to share them with you.
Relationships are messy, but they're also a journey of growth and self-discovery. This episode takes a deep dive into the complexities of love, long-distance dilemmas, and the importance of self-healing. We start with the social dynamics in Pittsburgh, including the evolving charm of Bloomfield, before addressing a listener's quandary about proposing to his soon-to-be traveling nurse girlfriend. From personal experiences with long-distance love to setting crucial deadlines for such relationships, we highlight the importance of clear communication and personal growth. Wrapping up, we tackle weighty issues like infidelity, bisexuality, and polyamory, all while maintaining our signature blend of humor and honesty. Tune in for a raw, insightful conversation that promises to leave you both entertained and enlightened.
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Speaker 1Last time I was very, very nasty with you and I want to apologize for the last episode.
Speaker 2I looked back and I'm like what a dick I was you're only apologizing because some of the viewers called you out, so I don't know. You're giving some Jeffrey Dahmer vibes. Yeah, so you wanting me to pour this into there because you know I don't?
Speaker 1Why do you say that?
Speaker 2I've met enough guys that lied about sex and the number of partners they've been with. You want to know what he said about us what do you say? He said this is the second time I've been in pittsburgh. If we're rating humans on an attractive scale, I haven't seen more than a 4.8, and I love it. It's like that's why they need football.
Speaker 1Really fucked up, I'm sorry has he seen us.
Speaker 2You're terrible.
Speaker 1Like sometimes the buzz just gets me in.
Speaker 2Oh, you mean like alcohol.
Speaker 1I was thinking vibrator.
Speaker 2I don't think you've seen how intense I can be, and how harsh.
Speaker 1I can be. This is going to be better than Nikki Glaser's roast.
Speaker 2It's just too much, Kelly. I can't stand it.
Speaker 1This is Kelly Mazgorski and Ryan Frankofsky and you're listening to. Mocktails are Messy.
Speaker 2We're so excited to be here. We're so excited to hang out with you.
Speaker 1I am so impressed with this dress. What the hell, where'd you get this shit?
Speaker 2I got it from your mama. I got it from my mama, you got it from my mama.
Speaker 1You got it from Linifer, damn Linifer, got some swag.
Speaker 2She does. You know how to wear it out baby girl.
Speaker 1Last time I was very, very nasty with you and I want to apologize for the last episode. I looked back and I'm like what a dick I was.
Speaker 2You're only apologizing because some of the viewers called you out. She ain't wrong, you are not wrong, so, um, I don't know. Apology accepted. I really that doesn't mean I forgive you, but I accept the apology.
Speaker 1Oh fuck, that kind of hurt girl you're giving some uh.
Speaker 2Jeffrey dommer vibes this is jeffrey dommer yeah, so you cleaned up, you shaved all that scruff off and now you have the mustache and I mean it's a little too much, right, it's a little extreme I think you look good. I think you look good.
Speaker 1Yeah, I'd love to like work this mustache out, like maybe try to fade it up, like maybe not so aggressive, like I even put a little man tan on because it was looking contrasting. Oh, were you very pale underneath. I was pale underneath that beard hair All right.
Speaker 2What are we drinking today?
Speaker 1We're doing our mocktails and our messy.
Speaker 2Okay, what is your mocktail? So?
Speaker 1my mocktail is Barvis Brewing Company Pumpkin Dark. It is a limited release. It's a non-alcoholic craft brew. Check it out, Kellis.
Speaker 2What I'm going to do is, tried and true, a fan favorite, sam Adamsams octoberfest.
Speaker 1I've actually never had it before because I am not a beer girly, but I'm gonna try it for y'all you said that you don't like beer unless it's pumpkin I do like pump king okay, pump king is one of the first pumpkin beers I do like that one that is like I'll have like one like too much beer just doesn't.
Speaker 2It doesn't sit in my tummy right.
Speaker 1Look at this pumpkin dart that looks very good.
Speaker 2Are you wanting me to pour this into there, because?
Speaker 1you not. I don't you like sucking on that bottle. I don't want to suck on the bottle I have an announcement to make about myself that nobody cares about.
Speaker 2I am no longer a Whole Foods girly anymore.
Speaker 1I'm now a Trader Joe's girly, I can't believe that you're a Trader Joe's girly. I tried to convince you.
Speaker 2You know what? I went to Trader Joe's? They had amazing things, lots, tons of organic things, tons of gluten gluten free options. My son is a little bit intolerant to gluten and I was impressed and my bill was like half of what it would have been if I went to Whole Foods. So totally impressed, although I will say it's hard to. It's hard to compare because we're talking about fall produce, not summer produce that I was buying about fall produce, not summer produce that I was buying.
Speaker 2When you're buying berries, like berries and berries on end, that's like that adds up and like the kiwis and like, but like the fall produce, like I just love that you're doing so many berries. I'm like I guess I've never been into like buying get a couple kids and the berries oh, they love oh my gosh, you could never have enough because it's just easy for them to eat.
Speaker 1They're little, they're good for you, antioxidants, all that yeah, we were talking the other day.
Speaker 2You are doing sober october sober october. You've been sober for how many months? 250 days how many months is that?
Speaker 1so eight will be on on October 3rd, I believe eight months, or maybe is it nine January 3rd. What is that? Is it nine January?
Speaker 23rd. I don't know, let's not be dumb. You should know, because you had babies. Well, that's the ninth month. You're obviously doing the Sober October oh yeah, boring, and what I'm going to? Actually I'm going to give up caffeine, I'm giving up caffeine.
Speaker 1Let's do it together. Really, can you do it? We were talking about this in the car. I can definitely do it, but I need an accountability coach.
Speaker 2So what you told me was like you kind of replaced your alcohol with caffeine and you've been like kind of spiraling with the caffeine.
Speaker 1It's just too much Like sometimes like I'll get a headache from having a couple nitro brews from Starbucks and then Yenzer's, which is my favorite little spot, and I didn't even realize that Yenzer's is a coffee shop that's right next to my office. So then I was like, great, I'm kind of upset that I found out that it's right next to my office, because now I'm just like that's my fix in the morning.
Speaker 2It's too much, it's just too much. Kelly, I Like that's my fix in the morning. It's too much. It's just too much, kelly. I can't stand it, so I do want to talk about something, Dave Portney who is the founder of Barstool Sports?
Speaker 1Yes, which is Call Her Daddy dude. Oh, so she started her and Sophia, her co-host, started on Barstool Sports. Shit, I didn't know that.
Speaker 2Okay, okay, well, so anyways, he was in Pittsburgh, like, and he was raiding our pizzas, mmm and um.
Speaker 1That's interesting.
Speaker 2While he was in, well, while he was at Bella Notte Bella Notte In the city's strip district. Oh, yeah, really good Italiano Do you want to know what he said, because I'm like, I'm offended, I'm about to call a bitch out. You want to know what he said about us.
Speaker 1What did he say?
Speaker 2He said this is the second time I've been in Pittsburgh. If we're rating humans on an attractive scale, I haven't seen more than a 4.8.
Speaker 1And I love it, it's like that's why they need football. What the fuck. I'm sorry, that's really fucked up. I'm sorry, has he seen us. Oh, you're terrible. I mean, why would he say that?
Speaker 2After seeing people's reactions to his comment, which people were upset.
Speaker 1You know, Vince Burgers were upset.
Speaker 2Rightfully so, and I'm sorry. Who the fuck is he to talk have?
Speaker 1you seen a picture of him. He's kind of like nothing to write home about.
Speaker 2Right, okay, so anyways, he responded on X.
Speaker 1What's X? I guess that's a social media. Oh, twitter, oh, is that Twitter?
Speaker 2now, okay, I'm like not, I'm behind.
Speaker 1I know.
Speaker 2With the times. But okay, he says, with all due respect, it was a compliment. Nothing fancy about Pittsburgh, just ugliness, steel and football my kind of city. Oh my God, that was his, like you know, signing out post that kind of hurt. That kind of hurt a little bit. I'm a little hurt right now.
Speaker 1Ugliness. And then what was it?
Speaker 2Football, just ugliness. And then what was it? Football, just ugliness, steel and football.
Speaker 1And then he's, then he tries to remedy it and say my kind of city, oh my gosh. I mean it is kind of nuts to think about this like I would never go there, and especially him. But you know the thing that I love about him? He's just like completely shock value definitely or do you think that's a bad thing, that society's become all about shock value?
Speaker 2like him I think that he just doesn't have a filter, quite like us and I really think he thinks that and that's fine, but he hasn't seen all of pittsburgh.
Speaker 1I mean, we have some we have some cuties up in there. Yeah, depending on what industry? Uh, no, that is not true at all. I mean, you should come check out my office I mean I'm sorry, but um it takes that kind of guy to say it to create a little controversy.
Speaker 1Controversy, I mean, it's one of those things that like he knows what he's doing. It's kind of like the lala kent from vanderpump rolls. She did stir the pot, she was chaotic because she said that's what they want. That's what the people want is drama and like clickbait and they, you know, if you want to be relevant, like you're not gonna, you're gonna keep your job and like he clearly is a public figure, you know, created barstool sports. Yes, yeah, cheers, oh my god, cheers to being a little bit higher on the 4.8 scale or just just like never, ever going there like I don't know what. Like everybody has like a different type and like why are we rating people?
Speaker 1maybe he was saying like in new york and like bigger cities, like maybe chicago or la or miami. People like take care of themselves a little bit better.
Speaker 2It's possible. I don't think his message came across in the right way.
Speaker 1That was fucked up.
Speaker 2It's a blue collar town. Yeah, appreciate it, and it sounds like he does appreciate it. Yeah, that was a fucking weird response he had to throw a jab out there first which is not necessary, I do want to follow up on this roast that you want for your birthday.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2I was thinking.
Speaker 1Do you think I can handle it?
Speaker 2I don't know, as I've been writing it.
Speaker 1So we are creating a roast for my birthday on 11-11.
Speaker 2I'm creating the roast, okay, well, I'm. You have no part in this. I'm starting.
Speaker 1This is going to be the second year in a row that I'm going to have the event Like. I'm like you know what, I'm not dating anyone. Even last year, I kind of forced my ex to plan the birthday for me.
Speaker 2Sounds lavish, Go big or go home honey.
Speaker 1No, I will say I was thinking as.
Speaker 2I was writing it, I said this is brutal. This is not something you'd typically say to a friend. So I do think that, in order for Mocktails or Messy to continue beyond this roast, that we do need to sign a contract that we're not gonna quit on each other. Yes, or I mean, it's okay we don't have to be friends anymore, but we can't stop.
Speaker 1Mocktails are messy I know we did take a pause before that's why we're doing the contract. Okay. So what you're saying is you want to do a contract? Yes, because you're going to be so harsh on the roast yes, that you think that this Scorpio is going to be too sensitive to handle your roast. I don't think you're sensitive.
Speaker 2I don't think you're sensitive. I think that you might just want to wipe your hands clean of this little bitch in your life, because it's not that you're sensitive. You just don't put up with nonsense, and I know you're asking for it, so I think you'll be okay. But I don't think you've seen how intense I can be, and how harsh I can be, this is gonna be better than nikki glazer's roast, and I probably shouldn't say that now I'm jinxing it.
Speaker 1It's going to suck but I'm not fucking around. I've been working on this. I see the little twinkle in your eyes. I'm so excited. Okay, I've been like hanging out with these two lawyers.
Speaker 2Okay.
Speaker 1Back to back, and back to back.
Speaker 2ain't no act.
Speaker 1You always give a little like nice little one liner zinger. You got good zingers girl. But yeah, so like I just think maybe I have, like you know, an attraction to like professionals, attorneys, like I don't know if it's necessarily like it's about time. I don't know, Like what do you mean?
Speaker 2it's about time, Honey some of your past relationships were Skrt, skrt, skrt.
Speaker 1I don't know what you're referring to. Maybe be more specific, Kellis. I plead the fifth, oh, okay. So what we talked about recently is we yes, we want to be public about our lives. We do love being authentic and genuine and being vulnerable, opening up so we can help maybe somebody else that might be struggling through a tough time or whatnot, and I won't draw this out any longer, more than just say we are learning to kind of perfect, not hurting anyone's feelings.
Speaker 1Yes, I agree with that 100% Respect privacy, but we also want to be like completely open and authentic and not vulnerable, and you know we want to educate. Like you know, I'm going through a hard time and, like you know, I was calling out somebody else that, like might have had a problem in the past and they weren't comfortable like having me like be a little cryptic on who it was. I didn't say names.
Speaker 2Sometimes you have to keep your private life private.
Speaker 1Yes, but I do love to talk about my sex life.
Speaker 2I think that's fine.
Speaker 1This I was super inspired by and I thought of you.
Speaker 2Oh, I sent that to you. Oh shit, why did I just?
Speaker 1try to take credit for you.
Speaker 2I sent that to you, but play it.
Speaker 1Okay, I hope you were directing it towards me, or was it directing it towards you about?
Speaker 2me, it is just empowerment for people in general.
Speaker 1My biggest pet peeve is when a bad bitch doesn't know she's a bad bitch Like girl.
Speaker 2you're fine, you're a queen and you're insecure.
Speaker 1What a waste. Don't waste that that way. That's a pet peeve of mine.
Speaker 2So who is that? This is?
Speaker 1Jenna Lee. Jenna Lee, like girl, get that confidence poppin' you deserve it.
Dreams, Passions, and Manifestation
Speaker 2I know I love it. Jenna Lee on TikTok. Jenna Lee on TikTok. I know I just started following her and I was like obsessed. It is at hey, jenna lee h-e-y-j-e-n-n-a-l-e-e she has our vibes, she has the right sound bits, that's for sure, because, uh, that has a lot of views.
Speaker 1I know 1.3 million followers. Do you think we're like too into like social media, like we were talking about last time?
Speaker 2it's part of our business, like we don't even know shit about social media I guess better than the boomers right did you take a silent walk this week? You know what this week I did. I took a little walk at north park okay, I was listening to him and her.
Speaker 1The skinny confidential, it's a couple podcast and um. They were interviewing chris appleton chris appleton is kim kardashian's hairstylist he's created his own line like the color wheel. He's like a really sexy um english guy. He said to on the podcast that like he had like got married and had kids at like 19 and then he kind of figured out like oh, he might be like more on the, you know, lgbtq gay side okay, the equation.
Speaker 1So yeah, he just like kind of came out later in life but he described, like you know, he's so grateful that he has like these two wonderful kids and he's a young dad having kids at 19. I mean, fuck, he looks like he's like 32, right, if you look at him. I want to talk about, like you know, sober october coming up like. Are we gonna do like some kind of like sober festivals?
Speaker 2are we gonna like maybe get like a daybreaker event and like we need to find some more of that I would like to know how often daybreaker events come around. I think it's a yearly thing. I did really enjoy that.
Speaker 1I'm going next year for sure, yeah, we need to get it.
Speaker 2It's too bad that we don't have the content, because you and I were dancing like we were wasted on stage and your mom's friend recorded it and she didn't like know that her phone is like a flip phone and it was super blurry you couldn't even see anything I'm surprised she had a flip phone. That was kind of weird, I mean I would have just given her my phone to record it, because that was like great content um I know you know, listening to chris ableton, he's like follow your dreams and passions.
Speaker 1Like you know how we have always kind of wanted to like do a talk show or, you know, be like involved with some kind of production. Like we are following our dreams and passions now and I think it's really important to like encourage others to do the same. So, like with you, we were just, you know, talking to like one of my colleagues and I'm trying to convince you to like get your real estate license, but like really, what is your dream and passion outside of the podcast? Because I don't even know if you really like would love like selling real estate. I know that you say like you might want to, but like what would be your dream and passion outside of the pod?
Speaker 2yeah, so my life has been a series of progressions and I'm actually doing what I want to do right now, which? Is be a mom and do the podcast isn't it beautiful.
Speaker 1You are living your dream. I am, yeah, and like you, kind of like have these beautiful kids in this beautiful house, and it's like, what more would you even want? Like I mean, you seem like you're content. You even have like my dream car, like I. That's what I want, I want, I want your life. You want my jeep wrangler yes, I want to buy your jeep from you. So you say what else could I? Possibly want this is one of those things where maybe there's going to be an update next week.
Speaker 1Oh, to be continued, because I've got some things going on right now. Yeah, you haven't even told me. You were saying that you were stressed out the other day.
Speaker 2Well, I wanted to talk about manifestation. Manifestation.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 2So a manifestation is the public display of an emotion or feeling or something theoretical, and it's then made real public display of emotion or feeling or something theoretical, and it's then made real.
Speaker 1Yeah, like the law of attraction.
Belief, Manifestation, and Support
Speaker 2Right, it's so powerful. I'm not going to say like that I'm stupid. And I'm not going to say that I'm like, not confident. And I'm not going to say, you know anything negative about myself or what I want, because I'm going to believe it and I'm going to own what I want, because I'm gonna believe it and I'm gonna own what I want and, um, you know, I might not have it yet but I don't really care if I seem delusional, I'm manifesting something right now, like right now and it's been a long time coming, like I've been doing this for a while, like daydreaming, manifesting, like and everything is coming to a head right now I love it and I just can't I can't tell anyone right now because I can't dare to.
Speaker 2You know maybe jinx it, jinx it and people would be like, just say it, like why won't you just say, and it's because I don't want to jinx it, so you should keep your stuff private until it actually happens exactly because you don't want bad vibes from other people and um the evil eye is real.
Speaker 1Kendall jenner talked about this.
Speaker 2She's like I believe that yeah so like be silent A jinx means that you want something to happen and just by talking about it you hope it doesn't go wrong.
Speaker 1So Zipping it.
Speaker 2You're not even going to tell your bestie With a test. I'm not telling anybody.
Speaker 1We're going to give you all the prayers and all the good vibes coming your way, because you know, I believe that you will accomplish it. I believe in you always. I think you and your husband are good people, you know you work hard. You give back. You want the best for others and I feel that in you guys.
Speaker 1Thank you, I've always felt that like, even though we might have been like in and out of, like communicating over the years, you've always like we're so in, like just so loving with, like their comments or, like you know, positive energy, like I always feel like you're like my biggest fan. Sometimes I'm like fuck, I can barely get something out of like you know who I thought was like my, you know forever, ever after you know, I think that there was always a little bit of competition involved with people that I was surrounded by in LA.
Speaker 2You know, and the biggest fan thing, that's what can hurt. If you're in my life and I care about you, I am your biggest fan.
Speaker 1And it is genuine, it's not like a one-upper type of thing.
Speaker 2I mean, if I don't like someone, I don't like someone.
Speaker 1But if I like you, I'm your biggest fan, so you've never been fake with people uh, I'm not saying I never have been. I'm saying at this point in my life I'm not fake yeah, and I think you don't need to because you're not in sales right you know what? There's always a slimy salesperson around the corner somewhere right, but they're not all slimy right, there's always a slimy salesperson around the corner somewhere, right, but they're not all slimy, right, there's always a slimy salesperson around the corner somewhere right but they're not all slimy right.
Speaker 2But they're not all slimy right or even we're gonna be.
Speaker 1I was always like I want to be friends with you and let's like talk about like just life. I was never good at being the shark salesperson that's like, okay, I'm going to butter you up and then execute like close it Right. We talk about this like in nausea, but the law of attraction is so important to me. I was able to get my real estate license. That way, I was able to get through engineering school. That way, I was able to get this design job. That way, like I feel like everything that has happened in my life that has been like an important stepping stone. I've always believed that, oh, I'm going to get it. Like I was almost like it sounds cheesy, but like I was pretending to live it before it actually happened.
Speaker 2Right, well, yeah, that's, that's what you got to do, right.
Speaker 1I think so. So I was working as an intern, an engineering intern, in 2011 this was before you and your husband got married. I said to you because that was like the summer, that was like probably one of the most magical summers in my entire life because we were under 21.
Speaker 1We were being very bad at 20, like you know, you know, like sneaking the booze. But we were also making money, like you were making good money as a waitress, and I think you were even doing like odds and end jobs. Oh my gosh. Yeah, we were living at home. It was while we were in college. You know, it was just an amazing summer being 20. Yeah, so I was like Kelly, I'm going to get these tickets, like I'm making so much money as the intern. I mean, I think it was like $23 an hour back in 2011. That's a lot of money.
Speaker 2You bought us the tickets.
Speaker 1I bought us the tickets and I was like, why are they so cheap? Direct or no, it was not direct.
Speaker 1Well, that's a big one it was $150 round trip layover in Atlanta fromanta, from pittsburgh to atlanta to date well, actually orlando, so we didn't even get to daytona. We had to get picked up at the airport. But we were just sitting at the layover gate, like in atlanta, staring at people walking onto the plane. We're like, oh, we have enough time. Like the flight doesn't leave till three and it's like probably 245. We're staring at people line up at that gate and we didn't know it was that gate.
Speaker 2Okay, so is that confusing? No, so this is what happened. We were sitting there, we were hungry. Yes, and we wanted a drink an alcoholic drink yes, so we go to one of those like places in the airport. I forget where we went.
Speaker 1Something stupid like a chain, like a Friday's or something.
Speaker 2So we're sitting there eating and drinking because I had a fake ID and I did too.
Speaker 1I did not. Oh, I was giving you the drinks, then they didn't even care.
Speaker 2I don't think they ID'd you. Yeah, they didn't care I don't know that they id'd me either maybe george was a little bit like loose.
Speaker 1Whatever, we both had drinks okay.
Speaker 2So we're sitting there with our drinks and our like burgers or whatever, and we're just eating and drinking, and then we get up and our flight's gone you're like oh wait, what you're?
Speaker 1you mean the gates closed? I thought it was. I thought it left at three. They're like sir, we board at like 2 30. The flight actually takes off the ground to three.
Speaker 2We were so airheadish like buzz, maybe a little drunk but they were so nice I think you bullshitted them and you're like oh, like we were running, we couldn't make it or something, and they like booked us for the next flight oh my god, what is my problem?
Speaker 1I'm like literally automatic pathological liar at that age, like, just like life in general. I'm like okay wait, we were running, sir, really like we had something wrong with us sitting at the the restaurant having drinks and he's like, yeah, my ass, you were running through the fucking airport so that's just a crazy story.
Speaker 2And then we got into multiple clubs like under 21 god, it was so much fun.
Speaker 1We, as soon as we land your husband now where you weren't dating- you didn't even look at you, didn't even look at each other Like you were romantically at all. Yeah, no, probably never.
Speaker 2Even kissed it at that point I wish you could find those pictures, cause we have some good pictures, but if we find, okay, so we did get some questions written Um.
Relationship Challenges and Self-Healing
Speaker 1yeah. I'm um, yeah, I'm so glad that sign is paying off. I know that rental. You know the where we are renting that sign. I know steve's giving us a really good deal on that kiosk right, that kiosk in bloomfield we're fortunate to have the sign I know, I know, but you know I did say something to like one of like the higher ups at my company.
Speaker 1They're really nice and stuff, but they're kind of bougie and they're like, oh, where do you live in pitts? They're kind of bougie and they're like, oh, where do you live in Pittsburgh? And I was like Bloomfield and they're like, oh, really, I was like what's wrong with Bloomfield? I think I mean it's, I've always loved Bloomfield, it's little Italy of Pittsburgh, I mean, even though there's not even a goddamn Italian restaurant, and that's that neighborhood anymore Crazy.
Speaker 2Now I really want to go to. Baby loves tacos.
Speaker 1I know baby love talk. I tried to go one time and it was closed.
Speaker 2I guess they're closed on Mondays or something, but they I tried to go one time and it was closed.
Speaker 1I guess they're closed on Mondays or something, you know what? They can't get as many people to work. Oh yeah, it's kind of like one of those situations. But sorry, I didn't mean to interrupt you?
Speaker 2No, you're fine, I do do that a lot, so we do have some questions that were sent to us. I have two of them. Yeah, we can check and see if there's more.
Speaker 1I know you finally hooked it up.
Speaker 2So you ready.
Speaker 1Yeah, I'm ready.
Speaker 2I saw your sign in Bloomfield, so I'm giving it a shot.
Speaker 1Oh sorry.
Speaker 2I saw your sign. I saw your sign in Bloomfield, so I'm giving it a shot because I need advice. I was just about to propose to my girlfriend, but I just found out that she is going to be a traveling nurse. I have my own landscaping business here, so I can't go with her. Do I stay with her or do I do long distance help?
Speaker 1You got to do long distance. If you got a company, you can't just like throw the company away, Like what are you going to do?
Speaker 2But should he stay with her? He could just break up with her.
Speaker 1How long have they been together? Did he say no, oh, you know what I think it's always important if it's less than a year to like really rethink, like if it's like amazing and you're like I can't live without you, what do you know? You know, I would say like less than a year, I think it's.
Speaker 2It's like a question because the situation isn't ideal right.
Speaker 1I would say that first.
Speaker 2But like you do need to have the discussion like am I your person, is she my person?
Speaker 1and then you go from there yeah, like I remember, I feel like she should have had this discussion with him before like she should have, like it seems I could be wrong, like there's not a bunch of context here.
Speaker 2Well, let me tell you something.
Speaker 1Let me tell you something. I think some nurses they want to work. Just from my mom being a nurse and like knowing a lot of you know people in that field, I think they go in and they're like, okay, I'm going to be a nurse, I'm going to be in like one location and then traveling nurse opportunities, especially after covid. They pay like big bucks, like I was talking to like one of my design clients in la. She was making 300 000 being a traveling nurse.
Speaker 2Yeah, I know those travel nurse I mean, who could pass that up?
Speaker 1and I mean it's all relative, like for her 300 000, like she was supporting her kid and a husband in Beverly Hills. So it's like I guess I'm just concerned.
Speaker 2Like did she just apply for this without him knowing? Like it just like it just sounds like, maybe, maybe she's tired of waiting.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Like maybe you should have proposed before, but um.
Speaker 1I mean we both have done long distance. What's your experience?
Speaker 2um, it was worth it for me and it was fine. Yeah, I think I did it and I was like you know.
Speaker 1Yeah, I think I did it, but I was kind of like reluctant to like stay in it oh, I was totally reluctant too.
Speaker 2It's just you couldn't picture my life without that person, who's not my husband now, and so it all worked out for me.
Speaker 1Yeah, you know what it's doable. Yeah, I probably wouldn't do long distance unless there was like a deadline.
Speaker 2Right.
Speaker 1Like I think if you have a deadline and you know like, hey, this is when we're going to like be in the same location, but if it's an open like, if she's just like, hey, I'm gonna do this, and then like I don't know where it takes us okay, that's a good point, because I totally had a deadline.
Speaker 2It was like we're gonna like visit each other on spring breaks and christmas breaks we'll see each other, and in the summer we'll see each other because we like our parents lived five minutes down the road from each other that's ideal and we knew, like you know, if, if, if it's still a thing when we graduate, we'll just get married and that's what we did but and then? So I do have another question. Unless you have anything else to add, there's another question.
Speaker 1I think personally I wish I did not do the long distance, because I would have been way more of a slut in Minneapolis.
Speaker 2Okay, there you go. There's the answer. Okay, so I have done so much self healing that I no longer like anyone. Should I just be alone forever?
Speaker 1Yes, oh not ever but you should be alone for a long time. I think that's important because I know myself, I'm like it's so easy to get these relationships creep, creep back in and, like you know the self, like, say it again, self.
Speaker 2It says I've done so much self healing that I no longer like anyone.
Speaker 1Should I just be alone forever, forever I think you should be alone for a long time. Yeah, to really continue like when the right person comes, then it'll be like boom no, but that's true.
Speaker 2If you don't like anyone, why would you be with someone that wouldn't be fair to someone else?
Speaker 1I think I think I noticed this happens with like divorcees, like guys and girls like sometimes they got burned so bad and then they're like self-healed and then they're like you know what. I don't want to go down that path. Like I even met some people that are like in their 50s and they're like this was in new york. They were like, yeah, I just had some really bad relationships.
Speaker 1I don't want to go through the heartbreak again, because the heartbreak is real. Like I do feel as much as I am totally down to jump into something if it feels right. I don't really care about the heartbreak, even though going through it it sucks. I just think it's like, hey, it's part of the process and I learn better for next time. Hopefully I don't make the same mistakes twice or three times in a row. But I do think in a lot of ways that you know some people they got burned so bad, whether it was like financially, with a divorce settlement, or maybe they're just like emotionally, like drained and like so, like closed off, that they're like I'm good, I'm not going to like open back up for just anyone.
Speaker 2Right.
Speaker 1But you have to realize nobody's perfect Like including ourselves, oh I agree with that.
Speaker 2I think, I don't know. I think maybe that's good for today. I just feel a little off after that Share me thing.
Speaker 1Oh no, but let's talk. Let's talk about some hot tea.
Speaker 2I don't have anything else.
Sexuality, Relationship Dynamics, and Acceptance
Speaker 1I do too. I mean, we could like you know because we boring well, we we definitely need to fill time. I don't mind I think you did it last time and I wasn't ready to be off. I mean, we got 13 minutes.
Speaker 2Okay, what do you want to say?
Speaker 1I was just going to talk about, like you know, possibly, uh, the one inspiration and just kind of getting us motivated for no one wants to hear this.
Speaker 2I'm sorry, I'm not trying to be a bitch.
Speaker 1I'm not going to end early just because she fucked us up.
Speaker 2I just don't have anything else to say.
Speaker 1Well, we can talk about stupid shit, because it could be good.
Speaker 2Well, let's Google some shit, let's not talk about ourselves.
Speaker 1Okay, so, like hot topics, like we definitely, I put it in these.
Speaker 2Beer's a downer.
Speaker 1You don't like the beer. I know, I know. Well, I'm going to San Francisco.
Speaker 2No one cares.
Speaker 1Why are you so mean? Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 2Talk about San Francisco. I mean you. Why are you so mean? Okay, go ahead, Talk about.
Speaker 1San Francisco. I mean you've been there, you like it, you're from Midori's there.
Speaker 2I do love San Francisco, so what do you have coming up, ryan?
Speaker 1Okay, so I have coming up. I'm getting booked in San Francisco on a design job.
Speaker 2Oh my gosh, congratulations, thank you, I just broke my necklace. Let me see it. Oh my god.
Speaker 1What happened, I don't know. Oh, my god. So tell me about it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I'm super excited, it's not broken, it's gonna. Oh, it's not broken. No, it fell off, though. How did it fall off? But you know, I just like Got like Booked for a job In San Francisco and it's gonna be a design job. It was through the old company that I worked for that I created a client out of them, and so, like you know, they had purchased like design furniture from the last place I was at, and so now I've been like just kind of hitting the ground running in design here. Like was working with a stager yesterday for this new project. It was a new construction. It's a little bit out there, a little bit further, but like beautifully done, like you know something about, like the staging. I mean, you know yourself like when you really take it to the next level, the place can look either a flip or flop.
Speaker 2Well, congratulations.
Speaker 1That is so exciting, yeah, I know all about that.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1September 26th to October 1st. If anybody's in San Francisco, hit me up, slide into my DMs. I would love to see you, even though I'm going to be working the whole time. Do you think that you could come with me and we could do a couple interviews? Honey, if I didn't have kids, I'd be there. Maybe this one person that I'm kind of interested in right now that I had amazing time with the other night, if you know what I mean wink, wink.
Speaker 2Okay, they have not been like super quick at Responding but you do know the saying Once a cheater, always a cheater that's what I'm Worried about.
Speaker 1So maybe it's like that tick tock that you Sent the other day about the girl who's Bisexual. She was never satisfied With the one sex, so she was like A polyamory or she was Like into polyamory.
Speaker 2I don't know the terms, but throuples or like a new thing like throuples or just I guess it's poly, poly, something, I don't know the whole word, I think it's called polyamory. Okay, yeah, they just kind of are fluid, yeah yeah.
Speaker 1I think I was just like never satisfied with like one or the other. Yeah, so like I kind of feel like in some ways like maybe I should just be single or in a thruple with a girl and a guy from the outside view, like I just don't think anything could satisfy you.
Speaker 2I think I think you have like this, like itch, and it just won't go away, no matter what you do.
Speaker 1Why are you such a good housewife Like? I don't necessarily think this is a positive. I just know that I am who I am.
Speaker 2And I'm not saying there's anything wrong with you, baby.
Speaker 1I know, but I want to be like you because I think it's more socially acceptable in society.
Speaker 2No, I think everybody should be exactly who they are. If you have this sexual itch that cannot be satisfied by anyone or anything, it does feel like that's the thing like it is what it is. Are you satisfied?
Speaker 1like immediately after yeah usually like when it's like pretty passionate and like just like good but over time chemistry over time I could get bored so easily, right, okay, yeah, yeah, like it's like it chemistry Over time. Oh, I could get bored so easily, right, Okay, yeah, yeah, it's like it's almost, like maybe there would be like you should honor yourself, and you should also honor other people, and you should let them know, like they should be aware of how you function. I sound like so fucked up Like, but it's just real, it's just real.
Speaker 2I believe it. Yeah, so fucked up like, but it's just real, it's just real. I believe it.
Speaker 1I know it's real, I've seen it honey what are your quirks when it comes to like if there was something that is just who you are, because you said about the Gemini thing like you're, like, you're like, this is just who I am, like, whether it be good or bad, like you're just two different sides, it's so funny.
Speaker 2People throw their zodiac signs out there just so that they're not thrown under the bus. It's like, hey, this is in line with my zodiac sign, so it's acceptable, right, right. And I think that it's weird because there's so much truth. I believe it's spiritual and I do believe there's so much truth behind zodiac signs. Very rarely does someone not match up with their zodiac sign.
Speaker 2Yeah, like Gemini is two sides um, I can see two sides of everything all the time I know and I think in my past like I could have been like a little two-faced or something like that, but I don't even remember that girl because like I don't know who that is.
Speaker 1Yeah yeah, like it's kind of funny like you talk about that person that you were like two-faced in high school maybe, I think I'm more of a mediator now where I see both sides, and I don't necessarily even pick a side when it comes to things.
Speaker 2I can just see both ways.
Speaker 1Oh yeah, and you're, you're kind of understanding, like both angles, and cheers to you. This is empty.
Speaker 2I don't have anything to drink this was actually good, okay, so I said I didn't like beer, but I'd. I'd say that this was um very like fall tasting and october tasting and I actually really liked it.
Speaker 1So I'm surprised because you're not a beer girl I'm not but you will be moving forward.
Speaker 2I'll pretend to take a little cheers.
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